In this video, I explain the foundation of my Do What You Can Live With philosophy a deeply personal framework that asks one question:
If you got the call tomorrow that your loved one had died… what would you regret?
This isn’t about guilt. It’s not about blame. It’s about clarity.
I recorded this in response to a mother who proudly claimed her son got sober because she cut him off. And while that may be true for her story, for many of us, that same approach can lead to the deepest regret of our lives.
Tough love tells you to detach and let go, no matter what.
Do What You Can Live With asks you to lead with love but also with boundaries, with honesty, and with the awareness that you’ll have to live with whatever comes next.
This is for every parent, partner, or sibling who’s been told there’s only one “right” way.
You deserve a framework rooted in humanity, not fear.
And if you’re still unsure?
Ask yourself the question that changed everything for me:
If the worst happened tomorrow… what decision would you be able to live with?
This video features a powerful news segment sharing one person’s real-life experience of being caught in the Florida Shuffle. A corrupt cycle of body brokering that preys on people in active addiction for profit.
If you’re new to this term, here’s what it means:
📍 Body brokering is when treatment centers or recruiters get paid to send patients with good insurance into rehab, often repeatedly, with little regard for actual healing.
📍 These brokers often offer flights, cash, drugs, or hotel stays to lure people in, and relapse becomes part of the business model.
📍 Florida became ground zero, but this is happening across the country.
Why this video matters:
Families deserve to know the truth about the addiction treatment industry because what looks like help can sometimes do more harm than good.
Watch this clip. Share it. And start asking harder questions before trusting any facility with your loved one’s life.
This was one of the first videos I ever recorded back in 2020, when I was still following all the mainstream advice about addiction: “Don’t enable.” “Cut them off.” “They have to hit bottom.”
In this video, I talk about how I canceled my daughter’s phone, kicked her out, and refused to help because I thought that was the only way to save her. My tone is blunt. Almost cold. I believed what I was doing was right. That it was loving. That it was necessary.
And in some ways, parts of that message still hold truth: people will find a way to use if they’re not ready to stop. But this video also reflects something deeper…my own fear. My own desperation. My own unhealed understanding of addiction.
I’m not proud of this moment. But I’m not hiding it either.
Because this is where my journey began. And to understand how far I’ve come you have to see where I started.